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OUR MIRACLE: Baby joy for Hartlepool mum after agony of five miscarriages

Helen Adams with her son Caleb

Helen Adams with her son Caleb

A MUM who lost five babies before falling pregnant again has spoken of her joy after giving birth to her “little miracle”.

Helen Adams, 33, and her husband Paul went through the heartache of five miscarriages between 2009 and 2013.

Helen has two children, Jade Jarvis, 14, and Owen Jarvis, 10, from a previous relationship and admits her marriage to Paul was affected after the continuous miscarriages.

The couple conceived for a sixth time on Christmas Day 2013 and after their son Caleb was born last September, Helen spoke of her happiness as she held the tot she feared she may never have.

And she also heaped praise on Sue Lennard, the nurse who was at her side all the way through her trauma, by nominating her in the Mail’s Best of Health Awards.

Helen, who works with adults with behavioural and learning difficulties, said: “It has been a nightmare for us both, but when Caleb arrived last September we just looked at him and thought he was a blessing to us.

“After five miscarriages, there is a time where you think it is never going to happen.

“I felt barren, low, useless. I was pushing people away, I’d lost hope and I was at my lowest ebb.

“It had a huge effect on my relationship with Paul. I have two children from a previous relationship, but Paul didn’t have any kids.

“I wanted to give him a child, but I felt like I couldn’t. I said to him why don’t you go and find someone who can give you what you want. That’s how I felt.”

The couple first fell pregnant in 2009, but a 12-week scan showed they had lost the baby.

A similar situation occured a few months later, then after it happened for a third time tests showed Helen’s blood was too thick and wasn’t getting to the baby.

Despite that diagnosis and subsequent treatment to try and correct it, Helen suffered two further miscarriages.

“It was awful,” added Helen.

“I felt like I had been pregnant for months on end, but had nothing to show for it. It got to the stage where miscarriages became normal.

“The fourth time it happened, I was at work on a double shift and I just worked through it.

“I was scared to tell anyone I was pregnant because I knew I would then have to tell them I’d lost another one.

“Most couples go to scans excited to see how their baby is growing. We used to go just hoping there was a heartbeat.”

Helen and Paul decided to give it one last try, and after concieving at the end of 2013 regular scans showed the pregnancy was progressing normally though after 20 weeks there were fears the baby wasn’t developing properly.

She went on: “We were sent up to Newcastle as there was a fear the baby could have Down’s Syndrome, but we overcame that and everything was normal.

“I gradually started to tell people after that, and he was born on his exact due date which was September 17 and weighed exactly 7lbs.

“When I held him in my arms, I immediately felt I could protect him myself, which obviously you can’t do when they are in the womb.

“When I look at him now, smiling and gurgling away, he’s our little miracle.

“If any other are couples are going through the same thing, I would urge them never to give up.”

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HELEN returned to the Early Pregnancy Asssessment Clinic at the University Hospital of Hartlepool to thank Sue Lennard for being her “rock” - and to tell her she had put her forward for a Best of Health Award.

Helen, who loves in Windermere Road, told how Sue was constantly there when she needed her during her failed pregancies.

She said: “After the first loss, I was sent to see Sue at EPAC, and she listened to me.

“She made things simple for me to understand, she kept things simple and I could ring her to cry down the phone or ask for her help.

“Sue would tell me about other people who had the same problems, she was there for me all the time and she became a security blanket for me. She was my rock.

“We owe her a lot, and I believe if it wasn’t for Sue then we wouldn’t have got this far.

“I would love for her to win this award to show jut how much we think of her.”

Modest Sue, 49, who has worked for EPAC for 16 years, was delighted to be nominated but insisted: “It’s all part of my job.

“I’m here to help girls like Helen who have propblems in the early stages of pregnancy.

“You can’t make a miscarriage not happen, but it is about making that person not give up hope.”

Sue, who is married to Mark and mum to Bradley, 18, and 16-year-old Matthew, added: “When you see them finally get there, just as Helen and Paul have with Caleb, then it’s a feeling of pure relief.

“It’s a great ending to a long road.”

**THE Best of Health awards are set up to honour the angels, and we want to publicly praise the town’s marvellous medical staff.

But we need you, our readers, to tell us who they are.

We’re sure there’s hundreds out there, in GP surgeries, dental practices, hospitals and clinics.

Tell us who they are - and let’s make sure they get plenty of praise.

 

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