When ‘The Good Witches of the North’ invite me to a ‘Grab Your Wand’ taster session, I’m intrigued.
The workshop has nothing to do with frogs’ legs or broomsticks however; these witches – aka life coaches Dannie-Lu Carr and Bec Howard – are all about working magic on women’s confidence and empowerment.
Dannie-Lu is an assertiveness coach and a specialist in the psychology of performance, while Bec is a psychotherapeutic executive coach, specialising in the psychology of identity.
They’re combining their skills and experience to help women realise their utmost potential and self-worth, through a range of empowerment sessions and workshops held at the five-star Cleveland Tontine Hotel in North Yorkshire.
A ‘Grab Your Wand’ one-day workshop allows up to 24 women at a time to explore their reasons for wanting to change and take control of their lives, while simultaneously forming friendships with the rest of the group.
Participants also get to enjoy the hotel’s fabulous food – transforming your life is hard work, after all.
The Witches have worked with women from all walks of life, from actors and company CEOs to housewives and grandmas. Their overall aim is simple: for women to feel confident and comfortable with their own brilliance.
In need of a boost after the breakdown of a long-term relationship, I was also eager to focus on the positive changes going on in my life, like my exciting new job.
A wave of empowerment and self-confidence was exactly what I needed, but I was unsure if the Witches would really be able to help me.
I needn’t have worried. The session began with a traditional psychotherapy-style discussion with Bec, where she introduced me to the concept of the ‘drama triangle’.
This is a pyramid with a persecutor, rescuer and victim that are always present - a typical negative behaviour pattern many of us will be familiar with (for me, it was becoming a ‘rescuer’ for men that probably weren’t all that good for me, which meant I’d eventually become the ‘victim’ of the equation too).
Bec emphasised the need to extract myself from the drama triangle in order to approach things in a calm and considered way, and fully accept responsibility for my life and happiness (in other words, my own actions and participation in such dramas).
Next, Dannie-Lu filmed me listing my perceived ‘virtues’, and then made me watch the footage back.
Talking about ourselves in a positive way isn’t something that comes naturally to many of us; when asked to list my positive physical attributes, I was embarrassed and struggled at first.
But once I got going, it was easier than I’d imagined. Watching myself back was very uncomfortable but Dannie-Lu brushed my embarrassment aside and explained it’s important to see how you come across in order to convey the best version of yourself.
She was right, of course – it really does help.
Together, we compiled a list of everything I wanted to achieve in my future, both personally and professionally, and she was resolute that absolutely anything was possible – providing, as mentioned, I took responsibility for my own empowerment, broke those negative cycles and based my actions on positive outcomes for myself.
Bec and Dannie-Lu’s positivity was contagious, and refreshing.
In just one short session with the Witches, it had become clear that by accepting myself and beginning to feel comfortable in my own skin, I would be enabling myself to reach my full potential – and unleash my inner magic.